Strong and secure<\/strong><\/h3>\n![\"strong](\"https:\/\/sidewaysthoughts.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/Self-esteem-strong-secure-710x696.jpg\")
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Jane\u2019s character continues to be developed as she sets her own goals apart from what other people think or her perceptions of other\u2019s opinions. She begins to seek out opportunities to grow and develop. She may or may not be recognised, but she continues to learn and develop as a person.<\/p>\n
The goals Jane sets continue to evolve beyond her own aspirations based on a realisation of her place in the world not at the top of a ladder but as part of a whole. As she becomes more practiced, Jane\u2019s self-esteem is secure and becomes strong.<\/p>\n
Self-esteem transitions<\/h2>\n
The narrative above reflects a transition that is common in a driven workforce. People who define themselves by their success encounter a crisis when the measures of that success are no longer favourable. That crisis prompts reflection and an awareness of their value outside of their achievements as well as something greater than personal aspirations. Applying the self-esteem quaderant model, this presents a \u201cU\u201d shape transition of breaking down fragile self-esteem and rebuilding secure self-esteem.<\/p>\n
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There may be other transitions as well. For example, some people may continuously transition between strong and weak fragile self-esteem in an endless loop. Their response to things not working for them may be to simply do the same things faster and harder.<\/p>\n
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Still others may be at the peak of success and find it empty. They may not need to have a crisis, but an event or conversation may prompt them to re-evaluate the source of their self-worth.<\/p>\n
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Applying the model<\/h2>\n
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Where would you place yourself on the model? Where do you get your self-worth?<\/p>\n
One of the reasons why I am a fan of models is that they are able to take aspects of ourselves that are often hidden such as how we define our self-worth\u00a0and present them in\u00a0a practical way that can be observed. Once observed, we become aware of it,\u00a0decide\u00a0the extent that it\u00a0reflects reality, and make choices that can\u00a0help us be more effective and live a full life.<\/p>\n
The other thing I appreciate about the model is that it\u00a0is very clear about\u00a0what is required to move into strong and secure self-esteem. \u00a0If you set your own goals for a purpose you perceive is\u00a0bigger than your own personal gain, then you inherently begin to become more\u00a0effective and define a healthier\u00a0perspective of self-worth.<\/p>\n
Who you are as a person has value, simply because you are you.\u00a0Your achievements do not define you. Your performance does not define you. Your\u00a0position does not define you. I acknowledged\u00a0in my last post that simply telling you this may not change your own views of your self worth. It is my hope that perhaps seeing a model may help\u00a0a few people\u00a0understand practical steps to move\u00a0towards a healthier perspective of self-esteem.<\/p>\n
As I also mentioned in my previous post, this process is\u00a0often facilitated by someone external to\u00a0help guide you on the way.\u00a0If you are such a guide and you know someone who may benefit from considering\u00a0a healthy perspective of self esteem, please feel free to share through the social links below.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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